Unsolicited Advice

Let’s all talk about the elephant in the room: unsolicited advice.

People always want to offer up their advice, that is just human nature. Sometimes the advice is awesome, and other times the advice is less than stellar. The thing about being pregnant is that everyone knows everything about it and feel the need to tell you all about it.

So far, I have gotten both types of advice. I had someone tell me that I couldn’t raise my hands above my head, otherwise I would wrap the umbilical cord around the baby’s neck. This is false information! No movement that a mother makes is going to wrap the cord around the baby. The baby wraps the cord around itself when moving around the womb.

My favorite type of advice during my pregnancy is definitely the advice everyone has tried to give me regarding the gestational diabetes. Gestational diabetes is hard. It is difficult to ignore the cravings, and it is difficult to ignore the second trimester hormones that are telling me I’m starving 24/7. But it makes it even harder when I have people telling me that it is okay for me to eat a couple of pieces of candy or have a soda.

Here’s the thing. My doctor has been working with women who have gestational diabetes for over 40 years. He has worked out a specific diet for his patients, and has seen great success with that. If he tells me to absolutely not eat a certain food, I’m going to do what he says. My health and THE LIFE OF MY CHILD depend on it.

I have a friend who repeatedly has invited me to go out and eat with her. I have told her multiple times that I cannot go out to eat with her, because I cannot accurately measure my carbohydrate intake when eating out. Her response is usually to the effect of “one meal isn’t going to hurt you. Anything in moderation is fine.” It is so hard to not roll my eyes at her. Are you a doctor with 40 years of gestational diabetes experience? Today, this friend and I had a conversation that went like this:

Me: I am craving a Dr Pepper so bad right now.

Her: Oh, why can’t you have Dr Pepper?

Me: Because of the gestational diabetes?  My doctor said absolutely no soda.

Her: Oh, well you could always have some juice.

(Side note: dr pepper and juice are not the same…)

Me: I can’t have juice since it’s loaded with sugar.

Her: Oh, well what about tea with honey?


At this point I just stopped responding to her. It wasn’t worth the effort to tell her, when she obviously wasn’t following the fact that drinks loaded with sugar are not in my diet. This same friend has offered several other pieces of advice during my pregnancy, which have all been ignored.

Sometimes it is hard to know how to respond to people giving you bad advice. Sometimes it is easier to just nod along and politely agree. If you have doubts about someones advice regarding your pregnancy, the best thing you can do is check with your doctor.

As for me and my house, we will politely nod, and follow up with the doctor if we see the need to.