A couple of weeks ago I wrote that I had some exciting news coming up, but would let my readers know when I was ready to share. Well, that time has come. About three weeks ago, B and I decided that we did not want to wait any longer and put together a small wedding ceremony for family. We are also in the midst of planning a reception for our friends and family.
B and I have known for a long time that we wanted to get married. He proposed to me, officially, back in October. Shortly after accepting the proposal, we found out that we were expecting a baby. This was a shock, as we were not exactly trying to get pregnant. Since finding out that we were expecting, we have had a lot of people asking us when we are going to get married, and if we planned to move the wedding date up since we were having a baby.
At first, I said no. We are not going to move the date up just because we are expecting a baby. The fact that I am pregnant does not play a role in my decision to wait on getting married. I guess on some level that I was making excuses to not get married so soon. For me, this is a huge decision. I have been married before, and it failed miserably. I didn’t want to repeat the same mistake, and I didn’t want to rush this relationship and see it fail. I also did not want to get married while being pregnant.
About three weeks ago, B was looking online at some jewelry, and he wanted to get me a really pretty necklace to match the ring he had bought me for my birthday. We decided to just go to the jewelry store, and I would pick out my own Valentines present. I am not much of a jewelry wearer, and this was perfect for me as I would be able to pick something that I knew for sure I would wear.
When we got to the store, I immediately went to look at the sapphire jewelry. I decided to try on a couple of rings that I thought would look good as a potential wedding band with my engagement ring. B pointed out one that he liked, but I wasn’t sure about it. I tried on the two that I liked best, and did not like either of them with my engagement ring. I tried on the one that B pointed out, just to see what it looked like. I immediately knew it was the ring for me. It looks perfect with my engagement ring. I told B that this was the ring that I wanted to have as my wedding band, and I encouraged him to buy it that day so that we would have it when the time came.
In that moment, everything came together for me. I wanted to marry this man. The date, time and place had no bearing on me. This is the man that I am meant to be with, this is my perfect partner. I knew I was ready to make this commitment to him.
We left the store without purchasing the ring, and B was teasing me about how he was only going to buy the ring if I was ready to wear it right now.. I told him that I was ready, and we could get married as soon as someone could marry us. We bought the ring, came home, and immediately started planning a small ceremony.
I happen to know a few random people, and one of those people is a biker who is also an ordained minister. I called his wife, and she told me that her and Mike would love to be part of our big day. We got married in a biker church, by one of my very favorite people. It was small, and only our family was present. It could not have been a more perfect day or wedding. I could not have asked for a more perfect man to share the rest of my life with.