This morning, my husband is off on a fishing trip with my father. Normally this would not be something to write home about. For me, however, it is a big deal.
You see, in the past I have always been in bad relationships. To finally be in a great relationship is beyond words. I’ve never had a relationship with someone who was so happy to be included in my family events, to be a willing participant. Now, I have a man who lives for Thursday night dinners at our house. Now, I have a man who willingly wakes up early to go fishing with my dad.
I believe that everyone at some point reaches a level of maturity where they recognize a good relationship from a bad one. Let me tell you ladies, a GOOD relationship is worth waiting for. I see so many women and girls settling for relationships that are bad for them, or with people who they do not really want to be with, because they are so afraid to be alone. I recognize this, because I used to be one of those women. I was always the girl who had to be in a relationship to be “happy” with myself. Thank God those days are over.
You see, when you reach that level, there is no returning. You can’t go from that epiphany of “why am I in these awful relationships” to “I think I will settle for this guy too.” For me, it was a no brainer decision to remain single following my divorce, while I tried to get my life together and figure out what I wanted from this life. That decision was solidified when I met Bryan, and I knew immediately that this was the person I had been waiting for and praying for. It was so much sweeter that I had not wasted any more time with crappy dates and temporary men in my life.
I do truly believe that there is someone out there for everyone. I know that I have found my true love, and I wish the same for every person. NOBODY deserves to be with someone who does not love them, honor them, and respect them. Nobody should have to settle to be in a relationship with someone who does not meet their needs: physical, emotional, spiritual.
I cannot express how happy it makes me to have found someone who DAILY goes OUT OF HIS WAY to show me that he is here, 100% committed to this relationship. I strive to do the same for him. I fail, and he fails. We work together, and we are a good team. I cannot wait to see what the next 50 years holds for us.
Love to all,